Yaoi Dreams Roleplay Forum

People are still allowed not to like certain kinks/fetishes and not want to associate with people who like those kinks/fetishes. No one owes you anything.

If it's a theme I don't like or agree with I simply don't do the rp however I don't hold it against the person who wants to rp it because I know it's not something they would do or allow irl.

why can't we just respect not everyone enjoys the same cup of tea and leave it at that?

oh wait. because not everybody likes tea and then some people will want other beverages/foods and nobody wants to be in charge of such a problematic kitchen.

Not liking/being into certain kinks (totally fine) and kink shaming people or worse about it (anti behaviour) is two different things though, shame people can't just live and let live if it's not harming you. I have some hard nos but I won't shame people who like those D=

@IceTea certain things can be MAJOR triggers for people, though, and there are some things I absolutely cannot agree with nor am I able to see "well all kinks are valid " but I just block that person without engaging in conversation.

Yes I think blocking them without talking to them is totally fine, abusing them or kinkshaming them is not. I have major triggers, I simply block that content so I don't see. I wouldn't go around finding the people who are into that stuff (and not putting it in my face) and abuse them for it, that literally makes no sense. Nor will I label them a criminal for liking it.

@Enraptured this is (among other things) about a few separate instances in like the last week in which ppl I RP with came to tell me they've been harassed and kinkshamed for what they like to play with other, unrelated people. If "not associating" translates to "repeatedly harassing and kinkshaming" then yes I do think people owe the decency not to do that shit to other people? Lol

Naahhh. Again, no one owes you anything; respect is earned and I lose respect for anyone who wants to have sexual intercourse with children. I'm sure PLENTY of pedos have used the argument "I've never hurt a real child!"

Like one can "not associate" with someone by, you know, blocking and moving on, or not engaging them, or if one really has to then briefly telling them why one is not comfortable interacting with them, rather than harp them about how they are horrible degenerates for writing about problematic themes on a 18+ site in their own threads, for example.

We'll agree to disagree.

For someone who's talking so much about how triggers should be respected maybe... do not jump to that conclusion with a complete stranger that you know nothing of? I do not exactly like the implication you're throwing out considering I have had unfortunate past interactions with people who actually wanted & partially succeeded to have sexual intercourse with children, or well, a certain specific child.

But hey, fuck CSA survivors if you can be the big man and throw out the big accusations and you get to feel morally superior about others I guess? Thanks...

Maybe one day I will be able to have this conversation without having to out myself and my past shit to not have the p assumption thrown at me, but today is not the day I guess. Alright, this is how we wanna go down, fine. I am NOT a fan of the idea that people who write shit online are the same as perpetuators of actual crimes, cause that kinda discounts the experiences that victims go through in my opinion.

Meow I'm sorry you have to say this...

If you do not think there is a difference between writing a story about something, intending to do the thing, and/or going out there and doing the thing... I don't know what to tell you. Probably "please interact with me as little as possible." Cause that to me implies you do not understand why the shit that has been done to me is so traumatic and harmful, and that you care more about the concept of being outraged.

@Meowcifer I am a CSA survivor, and I glanced over your thread to see your only no regarding children was those ~6 and under. Some people may find shota/loli somehow therapeutic while others are extremely triggered by it.

But yes! I am happy to no longer interact with you

@Meowcifer @Enraptured uhm. just going to repost this here...

depends on the person and the fine line between therapy and trigger, i think. might not apply to everyone.

Unrelated people writing about abusive childhoods are not the same as the people who chipped away at my self worth & caused me to have issues that affect me to this day and probably will affect me all my life. People writing about noncon are not the same as the people who saw me drunk off my mind and decided it was the best time to fuck me leaving me with black holes and confused memories and anxiety about sex.

And yes, even people writing about underage shit are not the same adults who approached me when I was underage and exploited my ignorance and uncertainty to do things they shouldn't have done, I will fucking die on this hill even one of my few squicks involves exactly that, for obvious reasons. And if you too are a CSA survivor you should know better than to assume others are not and basically call them pedos maybe.